There may come a point when you realize that your marriage is on the rocks. No matter how hard you try, you continue to run into one problem after the next.
If you eventually come to the conclusion that divorce is the only way to better your life, it's time to shift your focus towards the process and everything it entails.
The way you ask for a divorce is important, as this goes a long way in determining the first steps. If you and your spouse are on the same page, there's a better chance you can work through things in mediation without too much tension.
Conversely, if the initial divorce conversation goes poorly and you stop communicating at that point, there is a greater chance of a messy and complicated divorce.
Here are five tips for asking for a divorce:
- Prepare yourself. This is one of the most difficult conversations you will ever have, so you need to prepare yourself for every possible situation. You may want to jot down some notes to ensure that you stay on track.
- Choose the right place and time for the divorce conversation. You never want to be in a rush, as there's no way of knowing how long it will take to work through everything that needs to be said.
- Be firm. You don't want to become aggressive, but remaining firm is important. This is even more so the case if your spouse will try to talk you out of moving forward.
- Safety comes first. If you have reason to believe your spouse will become upset or violent, you may want to consider having the conversation in a public place or over the phone.
- Don't dive into the details. While there are many details surrounding your divorce, such as property division and child custody and support, you don't have to discuss these things during the first conversation. Doing so can increase tension, and that's not what you want at this time.
Even with a high level of preparation, you never know how things will unfold when discussing divorce with your spouse.
Once you have this out of the way, you can then learn more about filing for divorce and how your case will proceed. As long as you know what to expect and how to protect your legal rights, you should feel confident in your ability to reach the finish line in a timely manner.