There's no question about it: Divorce can be a painful, ugly process for everyone involved. By the time you make it into an attorney's office, the odds are high that you've already endured months or years of marital discord.
It's entirely understandable if you're not your spouse's biggest fan right now -- especially if the two of you are at an impasse when it comes to things like custody, child support and the division of your marital assets. It's naturally tempting to give up on the idea of an uncontested divorce and head straight to litigation. After all, who wants to spend a lot of time sitting around in what seems like useless meetings during negotiations that go nowhere, right?
Hold on. Take a deep breath. You don't want to make any rash decisions right now. There's a lot of wisdom in trying to hash out an agreement instead of going to trial. If you and your spouse can manage to "come together while you break apart," you can:
- Get your divorce over faster (really): Even if it doesn't seem like it right now, an uncontested divorce is almost guaranteed to proceed through court more rapidly than one that requires a trial.
- You maintain more control over your future: If you go to court, the judge is likely to rely on formulas and standards -- and those may not really suit your situation. A compromise agreement may make you and your spouse happier.
- You'll save money: An uncontested divorce is always cheaper than one that has to be fought at every turn.
Believe it or not, getting on the same page with your spouse really is possible. Alternative dispute resolution methods like arbitration and mediation have been helping couples put down their knives and work out agreements for decades. It may be time to give it a try.